Now, 2019 is just a few days away. We are saying “thank u, next” to 2018 and leaving the past behind to make new beginnings. It is time to assess your life decisions in 2018, learn from your mistakes and make New Year's resolutions to start 2019 as strong as you can be. No matter what happened in 2018, we have to use it as a bridge that will bring us to a brand new and better time that is right ahead of us.
New Year's dating resolutions for 2019 could be regarding a variety of things. You may be tired of casual relationships and finally, want to settle down. Maybe, you have realized that you can not tolerate people who might be the one for you just because of their little quirks. You might have some dating patterns that actually mislead you. Figuring out what you do wrong and what you need to do is the first step for an awesome dating life. These 5 easy-to-keep dating resolutions for 2019 will protect you from engaging self-destructive behaviors and enable you to have whatever you want in a relationship.
1. Understand Your Relationship Goals
“I will try to listen to myself and recognize what I want out of a relationship. I definitely will not let others and the society to affect me and persuade me to do something I actually don’t want.”
Comprehending your relationship goals is an essential first step. Protecting your thoughts from outside opinions is crucial for this. People may affect or even change your mind, do not allow them to do it this year. Know what YOU want.
*Do you want a serious or casual date?
*What characteristics of the other person do you like the most?
*What traits should your date absolutely have?
*What are traits of your date that you cannot take?
*What behaviors of your date you can tolerate and to what degree?
*What should your date do in order to make you be yourself?
These types of questions focusing more on your ideal date and your wishes will help you figure out your relationship goals.
2. Have Higher Standards
“I will not be over-tolerating my date if he or she does something hurtful, insulting, offensive or in my ‘red-flag’ zone over and over again. I will not purposefully indulge my date just because I am afraid of getting into troubles, breaking up and being alone.”
Acting based on the fear of conflicting with your partner or breaking up is a serious relationship problem. At first, you may think what he or she did is not so bad and you may actually feel that way too. Nevertheless, in the long term, it will be a huge problem for you. The more you ignore, the more issues you will get. Pay attention to repetitive red-flags. This may be being rude to a waiter all the time or a serious alcohol problem. Whatever it is, you deserve a better person than him or her. You may try to forgive and move on after a few mistakes, but if it repeats all the time, nothing is worth your sanity or peace. Therefore, you must be confrontational and brave to be happy and to get what you want in life.
3. Give a Chance to Love
“I will not judge someone because he or she is weird or not just my type. I will give a proper chance to my dates.”
The truth is that nearly everyone can stress out in the dates and cannot express themselves in a good way. Even when the first date does not go so well, you may still consider giving another chance to your date. You need to expand your horizons and give yourself a chance to be happy because you deserve it. Of course, if your instincts will say your date is dreadful or absolute deal-breaker for you, they will make you think you have to move on and not date them again. However, if you feel like “Despite a bad night, your date is still nice” give another chance to get to know them. You may miss great people by judging people too early. Do not forget that you can find the love in the most unexpected situations.
Stef Safran, matchmaking and dating expert, says "Decide what areas you might be open to meeting someone that, last year, you wouldn’t give a chance to.” Hence, you should consider giving another chance to the date you had in 2018 and didn't even think of seeing them again. They might have deserved another chance, so just go for it!
4. Be Yourself
“I will not try to be someone else just because my date loves it. I will not compromise myself for the sake of others. I will appreciate how wonderful I am this way.”
Let us be clear. Of course, you need to improve yourself. There is a difference between improving yourself and changing your personality for someone else. Accept yourself for who you are. Do not try to change your entire personality for someone else. You are a unique and perfect person in your own way. Acting out is just an awful idea that you should not even consider doing in 2019. Assess your behaviors in your past relationships. Think about what you have changed while in a relationship. For example, trying to hide your feelings or acting like not caring about something that actually bothers you. Learn from your mistakes and avoid doing them again in 2019 for a better love life.